Finding a Partner

[Desolee]

Can anyone advise any means by which I can find a rishta for my sister?

We dont know that many pakistani families and would like to go through the proper channels.

[frodo]

Can anyone advise any means by which I can find a rishta for my sister?

There have been quite a few Muslim marriage events in Birmingham. I'll try and post details here the next time I see them.

In the meantime (im assuming you are a brother and could act as wali), eligible brothers could PM you if interested?

[World]

Abu Muntasir (JIMAS) has started a matchmaking service after being involved with Shaikh Suhaib Hasan on the Shariah Council UK and seeing the problems that many young muslims were having in finding suitable partners in an islamic way. I understand that Abu Muntasir vets each application and suitor personally and then gets the parents involved from the outset.

The service details are below :-

Morning Dew

Advert and excerpt taken from the website :-

Islamic matchmaking and nikah services by JIMAS.

To register for matchmaking services or to book Abu Muntasir to perform nikah, contact:

Email: morningdew

or call 01473 251578

"Among His signs is that He has created spouses for you among yourselves so that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has planted love and mercy between you; In that are signs for people who reflect". [The Noble Qur'an 30 : 21]

In spite of a growing need for clean and correct matchmaking and marriage services for Muslims, many Internet based marriage services and organisations have become impersonal and no better than platforms for casual encounters, courtship and finding singles for romance and friendship. Speed dating is becoming common and ways of looking for a spouse are becoming desperate.

Let us help you to get to know the prospective partner, family and each others expectations in an Islamic and responsible way. Our matchmaking effort frees candidates from being pressured while allowing flexibility in choice.

Why not register with JIMAS and we will send you the necessary form to be correctly placed on our matchmaking programme?

For more information see :-

http://www.jimas.org/morndew.htm
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Also see Islamonline Matrimonial Services at :

http://www.islamonline.net/Matrimonial/ ... rowse1.asp

However I think that this site is more suited to people in the US.
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DISCLAIMER: I do not personally have any experience of these services nor know anyone that has used them and therefore cannot comment on their success rate or vouch for their integrity.

[frodo]

The post sharply outlines a need for this kind of service to be set up in Walsall. From where I am standing the situation seems to be that there are a large number of unmarried, pious practising sisters about but an acute shortage of comparatively pious, practising brothers.

[Ehtsham]

From where I am standing the situation seems to be that there are a large number of unmarried, pious practising sisters about but an acute shortage of comparatively pious, practising brothers.

The problem is that a large number of us "brothers" are going/or have gone back to Pakistan, India or Bangladesh to get married (myself included ) to get married. I must say from personal experience that I am very glad I did.

[Morning Dew]

Can I just point out that I had the name before Abu Muntazir launched Morning Dew! Infact, I was at JIMAS when it was launched and almost fell of my chair when I saw the leaflets for it. lol.

Abu Muntazir does do a good job but it can take a long while to see any results for your money.

I also agree that there needs to be a service within the community catering for this particular need. I know of plenty of sisters who wish to get married but due to poor community connections etc. have been unsuccessful.

As for going back to the country of your parent’s origin, if that’s your cup of tea, go for it. I know plenty of sisters, including myself, who would not consider it.

MD.

[Ehtsham]

As for going back to the country of your parent’s origin, if that’s your cup of tea, go for it. I know plenty of sisters, including myself, who would not consider it.

MD.

I wouldn't recommend it for "sisters".

[frodo]

The problem is that a large number of us "brothers" are going/or have gone back to Pakistan, India or Bangladesh to get married (myself included ) to get married. I must say from personal experience that I am very glad I did.

For those brothers who are convinced that a gal from "back home" will wake up at the crack of dawn to bake fresh parathas for your breakfast or bring your slippers to you whilst you watch Newsnight - forgedaboutit.
Times are a changing and you are more likely to feel a frying pan come into contact with your cranium.

As for going back to the country of your parent’s origin, if that’s your cup of tea, go for it. I know plenty of sisters, including myself, who would not consider it.

Is there anything inherently wrong in some geezer who can barely speak English, has 10 pairs of shalwar kameez in his wardrobe (all in the same colour) and a moustache so well manicured that it would put Saddam's to shame? Oh and make sure your Zee-TV subscription is not out of date...

[Morning Dew]

I wouldn't recommend it for "sisters".

Hmm...so you would recommend the brothers going back but not the sisters huh. Well, if all the brothers went back, who are the sisters meant to marry???

MD

[Ehtsham]

For those brothers who are convinced that a gal from "back home" will wake up at the crack of dawn to bake fresh parathas for your breakfast or bring your slippers to you whilst you watch Newsnight - forgedaboutit.
Times are a changing and you are more likely to feel a frying pan come into contact with your cranium.

Is there anything inherently wrong in some geezer who can barely speak English, has 10 pairs of shalwar kameez in his wardrobe (all in the same colour) and a moustache so well manicured that it would put Saddam's to shame? Oh and make sure your Zee-TV subscription is not out of date...

Some nice stereotypes youve just dug up Fortunately my experiences haven't resulted in the above. It is still very disturbing to hear nightmare stories about sisters being kidnapped by parents and forced to marry these "village idiots", as well as the problems being faced by girls coming over from the subcontinent who can barely speak/understand a word of English and being treated no better than goats by supposedly well-educated second-generation brothers. The recent case in Birmingham where Bengali mother killed herself and her children raises the question, is the community (in the UK) being educated correctly in the subject of matrimony or are they just following examples passed onto them for generations? It seems as long as your in the Mosque five times a day, you're exhonerated from keeping your wife as a chatle, and raising your children in the correct way of the Deen.

[Desolee]

Abu Muntasir (JIMAS) has started a matchmaking service after being involved with Shaikh Suhaib Hasan on the Shariah Council UK and seeing the problems that many young muslims were having in finding suitable partners in an islamic way. I understand that Abu Muntasir vets each application and suitor personally and then gets the parents involved from the outset.

The service details are below :-

Morning Dew

Advert and excerpt taken from the website :-

Islamic matchmaking and nikah services by JIMAS.

To register for matchmaking services or to book Abu Muntasir to perform nikah, contact:

Email: morningdew

or call 01473 251578

In spite of a growing need for clean and correct matchmaking and marriage services for Muslims, many Internet based marriage services and organisations have become impersonal and no better than platforms for casual encounters, courtship and finding singles for romance and friendship. Speed dating is becoming common and ways of looking for a spouse are becoming desperate.


http://www.jimas.org/morndew.htm
----------------------------------------------------
Also see Islamonline Matrimonial Services at :

http://www.islamonline.net/Matrimonial/ ... rowse1.asp

However I think that this site is more suited to people in the US.

Jazakaallah kher. World, thats what i'm after.

I am a sister, and wouldnt really like brothers PMing me - they could be anyone! And i'm not really in a position to deal with prospective suitors! Her/our brothers are dealing with that. I just want to facilitate would be's.

I find the internet just a waste of time, and no one is really serious.

[UmmAsiya]

Assalamuwalaikum

dear sister in islam, have you tried asking your friends?

I know 2 sisters that AlHamdulillah managed to get them selves a rishta through the help of their friends

Correct me if im wrong, but I think even the companions did that...if some1 knew a guy/girl that was suitable they would usually ask their background and if they liked that then they would see one another in prescense of their mehram and then got married

InsahAllah I ask Allah to bring two hearts together if they have not found one another
Marriage is a blessing, keep making duaa (ITS THE WEAPON OF A BELEIVER)

You must do Isthikaara- inshaAllah something will come your way.

[stareventsteam]

salam

Could you please forward to all muslims brothers and sisters of our next event.

Hope you are well by the grace of almighty Allah.


STAREVENTSTEAM are holding their next single muslims event.
The event is acting as an intermediary for people who are seeking marriage partners. The setting is very much open to all individuals to speak with each other. However, we will have advisors that will support individuals who feel shy or need an intermediary between their discussions.

Inshallah we will also be supporting women who feel they need to be in a segregated environment. The age group that has currently shown a high interest in coming to the event has been between 21- 45 yrs old. Please bear in mind this event is going to be conducted in a professional manner. An attempt to ensure that there is an equal ratio of the sexes, hence spaces are limited to first come basis.

Should you feel you need to speak to someone and arrange for bookings please contact one of our advisors, details are as below.

Please forward to all muslim brothers & sisters who are looking for marriage.

Venue
The Birmingham Hotel

Poets Corner

Golden Hillock Road

Birmingham

B11 2PN

Date
21st December 2008 Time: 12pm till 6pm

3 course Buffet Meal and drinks Included

Registration fee: £25
You are welcomed to bring a family member or friend. fees £20

For further details and bookings please contact:
Alisha
07737309349

Mo

07737845285
Website Address: www.stareventsteam.co.uk

Starevents Team are holding our next single muslims event on 21 December 2008 at The Birmingham Hotel.

Format for the Day:-

12pm Registrations (prompt)

1pm Speech

2pm Table Rotations

3.30pm Buffet Meal

After buffet meal is served you will be allowed to have a one 2 one session with your prospective partners. for further information please contact Alisha on 07737309349 or Mo on 07737845285.

Early bookings and payments advised to secure a place

Closing date for bookings: 19th December 2008

Star Events Team